Some Are Not What They Appear

Poorly cut grass and well cut grass
“Professional” grass mowing

Take a look at this picture.  The grass in the foreground was cut by a so-called “professional” lawn mower company.  The grass in the background (up to the driveway and just beyond it), my husband cut.  The “professionally cut” lawn is scalped – cut way too short – and was cut wet.  I took this picture 4 days after it was mowed, and it’d rained some in the interim.  By contrast, Peter (aka “swirl god”) mowed our yard, cutting it wet (it just hadn’t had a chance to dry out between showers), but mowing it with a 20″ push mower and high.  The “professional” service uses a heavy-duty, top-of-the-line riding mower, has the big trailer, nice truck, and so forth.

The point I’m making is, not everyone who presents themselves as a professional knows what they’re doing.  My husband is a true professional lawn care expert, knowing both the chemical care needs of various types of grasses and the best way to maintain those lawns.  The company who butchered our neighbor’s lawn has demonstrated repeated ignorance of lawn care.

I see this same behavior in my industry.  There are hundreds of great soapmakers out there.  There are dozens of fabulous cosmetic manufacturers I know.  Then there are the rest.  They’ll claim their lotions are “all natural” and “preservative free,” not realizing the safety value of preservatives in lotions.  That always leads me to wonder, Are they ignorant of good manufacturing practices, or are they intentionally mislabeling?  Some soapmakers will say they make their own soap and do so without lye.  That’s pretty much impossible, because without lye, there’s no soap – not the real stuff, anyway.

I’ve seen other soapmakers claim their soaps as “all natural” and “fragranced with essential oils.”  Yet, they leave me wondering, Just which part of the gingerbread cookie do you have to press or distill to get the essential oil out?  So-called “professionals” from all fields – not just lawn care and cosmetic and soap manufacturing – drive their businesses on their own ignorance and that of their customers.  The part that really bothers me, though, is that these business owners or employees can cause some significant harm and expense for the people they deceive and who are ignorant enough or gullible enough to believe them.

Having business cards doesn’t make one a professional at anything, any more than wearing a choir robe means one can sing.  Professional people exhibit certain characteristics.

  1. True professionals start at a place of knowledge.  Those of us who have been in the business for a long time know that it takes a lot of time and hard work to become an overnight success.  Before we start, though, we learn as much as possible about our business fields.
  2. True professionals never stop learning.  Whether it’s books, forums, peers, videos, seminars or conferences, professionals always look for what more they can learn.
  3. True professionals accept feedback graciously and seek to learn from it.  Being defensive helps no one, and certainly does not keep customers.
  4. True professionals work with integrity.  Whether it’s a mislabeled soap or shooting weed and grass clippings onto a neighbor’s yard, accepting responsibility for sub-standard work only makes one look better.
  5. True professionals realize that appearances don’t matter as much as quality work.  I see lawn care companies in old trucks and open trailers do exceptionally good jobs on lawns.  I mean, every.  Blade.  Of grass.  Is.  The same.  Height.  I watched one guy, and was just waiting for him to get out the ruler and scissors.  Yet, the guy who cut the lawn above has jazzy equipment but doesn’t know his stuff.  A soap company can look charming and adorable on social media, but doesn’t know correct labeling or the difference between fragrance oils and essential oils.  In absolutely every facet of life, the inside needs to match the outside.

What other characteristics do you see in companies or businesses that strike you as being truly professional-grade?

 

No Soap in Arendelle!

Ever have one of those weekends that end and you think you could really use a weekend to recover from your weekend?  That’s me today as we begin yet another week of work and school.  We had a great weekend, but we’re totally wiped out!  Saturday, the girls, Mom and I went to see a production of the play, The Little Mermaid.  After sitting in ridiculously, unnecessarily jammed traffic, we finally made it to Raleigh.  The play was highly enjoyable, and we went out to dinner afterwards.

My youngest daughter’s birthday weekend continued into Sunday with church and her family party.  Of course, like most little girls this year, the theme had to be Frozen.  Mom set an adorable table with a white tablecloth and blue snowflakes; my daughter chose a delicious menu of ham, macaroni and cheese (Click for the recipe – soooo good!), crescent rolls, and raw vegetables with dip; and my older daughter and I made the cake.

Frozen Cake
Hannah’s Frozen Cake

Look at this!  Devil’s Food cake (from a box this time) iced with homemade buttercream frosting.  To seal the cake and prevent crumbs from getting into the icing, I applied a sealing layer of thinned icing lightly flavored with clear Creme de Menthe.  My older daughter did the blue trim, and we made the ice palace with rock candy.  The figurines came from The Disney Store.  I told Mom I’d save the rock candy for when they took the girls to the mountains next month; they could eat it in the car.  (Yes, I’m slightly evil like that.)

I have a week to make my way from Arendelle to Hogwarts, navigating through school, work, and a girly sleepover between now and Sunday.  Whew! 🙂

I Quit!

CHOC Walk 2009
CHOC Walk 2009 (Photo credit: Denise Cross Photography) – Thought this was appropriate, as one of our movies was “Aladdin.”

Last week, I quit.  I quit work for the most part.  I quit the business for a week.  In fact, I quit everything but motherhood.  My older daughter was at camp, leaving me home alone with my younger daughter for a whole week.  What a treat, as we haven’t gotten to do this in about a year!

We did all sorts of fun things!  We went to the library and got books.  We went to the beach with my mom.  We got haircuts.  We watched movies – lots of movies.  We read books.  And we cuddled.  That was the best part, that cuddling.

I checked my business email once a day, and the Wee Princess and I went through boxes and boxes of soaps to parcel out which ones we’d be donating.  Then she helped me organize those in my storage space.  I made phone calls, did housework, and made products while she napped,  A couple of days, I napped, too.  So, I didn’t quit completely; it wasn’t a planned break, so I didn’t think it would be fair to my customers just to close up shop completely for the week.

The break was restorative and a great lead-in to beginning school this week.  It taught me something valuable, too; it taught me that I can, in fact, give myself a break from running my business full-tilt, and the world won’t come to an end.  It reminded me that my goal isn’t to build a lasting legacy through my business.  My primary goal is to raise two kind, compassionate, giving, loving, brilliant daughters.  Teaching them those character traits is the legacy that’s most important to me.

Email as a Productivity Suck

Think Different Wordle
Think Different Wordle (Photo credit: Ian Aberle)

Email.  Love it or hate it, most of us rely on it as a speedy, efficient way to communicate.  I use it for everything from general shared things (links and pictures), to grocery lists, to business matters.  It’s faster than old-fashioned “snail mail” but less invasive than a phone call.  I’m in the habit of checking my primary two email accounts daily, and I used to check them both every morning while sipping my pre-breakfast water.  But an article I read which one of my fellow Indies posted changed that.  (That link is well worth the read.)

As I read this list, even in the midst of our absolutely insane last month, two things resonated with me the most:  #2 – “Don’t check your email first thing in the morning,” and #6 – “Define your goals the night before.”  Wow.  With two events and three large orders, how easy it would be to implement at least those two goals in order to be more productive.  So, the next morning, I denied myself the obsessive urge to check my business email.  I skimmed my Facebook feed, tidied up my Gmail a bit (that’s my social email address), then ate breakfast and read for a few, completely oblivious to what might be in my business inbox.  After breakfast, I showered, then focused on some of the items I needed to get done for my events and customers.  In fact, it wasn’t until early afternoon before I ever got to my email, and nothing needed my attention.  That night before going to bed, I wrote my to-do list out on the dry-erase board and slept soundly, knowing there wasn’t anything that I was forgetting.

The article points out that reading email first thing in the morning makes a person more reactive than proactive.  The day before, my time was my own, focused on my goals and my agenda.  There was nothing I had to deal with that had cropped up, leaving me free to work as I wished.  The second day, I got cocky and checked email in the morning as was my habit.  In amidst the usual notifications and alerts, there was an email from one of my wholesale stockists.  Yes, I read it.  While I didn’t respond to it then, it stayed in the back of my mind until I did deal with it, distracting me from giving my tasks 100% of my focus and attention.  That alone was enough to encourage me to stick with waiting before checking my business email.

It’s been ridiculously easy to liberate myself from looking at my business email first thing in the morning, though I have had to become even more intentional about that since fixing the email app on my phone.  It all comes down to boundaries.  During the day, my time belongs to my girls, my business and myself.  While my customers are certainly the lifeblood of my business, there are many times when my business itself needs to be my focus, when I’ve got to be OK with putting off emails and phone calls until that batch of soap has been put to bed, or while that batch of lip balm is setting up.  There are other days, though, when my lovely customers come at the top of my day, and I can push other things to afterwards.

The to-do list has been a harder discipline, not because I don’t know what to put on one, but because I keep adding to it all day.  During our academic year, I would identify 2-3 key goals for that day, and if I just met those goals for my business, then I could keep things going just fine.  This time of year, that list expands to 6-7 items just for my business, nevermind the plethora of household tasks that demand my attention.  However, my nights are more peaceful and my days more productive when I take 2-3 minutes to create a list before going to bed.

What tips do you have for improving your productivity each day?  Feel free to share for everyone’s benefit!

Flippin’ for Flops

For the past couple of weeks, we’ve been telling you about some adorable flip flop soaps, mostly because, well, they’re pretty fun to make.  Because it’s summer, beach season, flip flop season, and I’m a soapmaker who LIVES in flip flops until it’s simply unbearably cold to do so, we wanted to make some soaps with a special goal in mind.  You see, our closest city neighbor, about half an hour down the road, sees a LOT of human trafficking, and this problem is on the rise.

Did you know…

  • North Carolina is one of the TOP 10 states in the country for human trafficking prevalence?
  • Wilmington, NC is one of the top cities in the state for trafficking, due in part to its ports, interstates, and highways?
  • There are more slaves in the United States today than there were at the height of the transatlantic slave trade predating the Civil War?
  • Slaves can be boys and girls as young as 8 or 9 years old?
  • Not all slaves are foreigners?  Many are American citizens who are kidnapped or recruited, and there’s no discrimination by race, gender, sexual orientation or nationality.
  • Modern day slaves can work in the commercial sex industry, but can also be field, house, or factory slaves?

Law enforcement officials are working hard and breaking up these human trafficking rings, but the survivors need help afterwards.  Centre of Redemption is one such organization helping survivors here in the Cape Fear area, providing temporary housing and other basic needs for those who want them.  This is good, important work, and I want to give them a little boost.  From now til the end of June, proceeds from the sale of flip flop soaps will go to benefit this worthwhile organization.

Steampunk Flip Flops
These adorable Steampunk-inspired Flip Flop Soaps are just one style available

Be sure to pick up a pair of these today!  They make the cutest addition to a guest bath, beach house or powder room.

Sunny Days Ahead

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Let me introduce you to Sun on the Go sets.  We are trying small sets in a convenient vinyl spa bag so they are more travel sized.  They can be taken on a plane,  yet are able to take just a little bit of space.  We aren’t doing shampoo;  instead,  we’re doing detangling spray, so after a day in the sun,  you can brush your hair with ease.  The lotion helps after sunburns or tender areas, while, at the same time, you can use it for simply moisturizing your skin.  SOTG_Small2The soap will be good for cleaning sweat, germs and even shells off your skin.  You can use it on your face, though we can’t predict how your skin will react, since people are sensitive to different things.  The lip balm will not work as a sun screen lip balm, so don’t use it that way.  However it will work if your lips are dried out. You can pick these up at the Blueberry Festival this Saturday, 21 June 2014 or order them from our online store if you’re not going to be in the area this weekend.

New Butterflies

MarysThoughts

Hello!  Spring is in the flower-scented and butterfly-flappin’ air.  I’d like to introduce you to these pretty butterfly soaps.  With a thin layer of sparkle on top, you can have your choice of a pink, purple or blue colored soap.  These pretty butterflies are perfect for girls of all ages – and you.  These are so pretty you’ll want them to sit on your shelf forever.

These butterflies are the prettiest things for your girl.
These butterflies are the prettiest things for your girl.

You can special order any color you want, either online at or just pick it out at the Blueberry Festival.  If it’s fewer than 50 bars of soap we can usually get them out within a week.  We are going to be there for the Blueberry Festival this Saturday, 21 June, from 9 a.m. to 6 p.m.  Have a fun filled summer!

 

Unplug Yourself

About three weeks ago, my mom, daughters, and I struck out on our Epic Spring Break trip.  We told my daughters for over a year about this “beach trip” we were taking for our Spring Break this year and how much awesome fun it’d be.  I knew what the treat would be – a 3-day Disney cruise on board the largest cruise ship in the Disney fleet, followed by 3 days at Walt Disney World.

The stern of the Disney Dream.
The stern of the Disney Dream.
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It’s a BIIIIG ship!

I left my laptop in the car, and while I took my mobile phone with me on the ship to snap some pictures to text to friends, I turned it off and stowed it in my purse before we left the port.  I could have paid for satellite access for my devices, but instead I opted to take advantage of the opportunity to completely unplug for the duration of our cruise.

This was such a great choice, because it forced me to focus entirely on Mom, my daughters, and the many fascinating things there were to see and do on the ship.  I got along splendidly without text, email, and Facebook for a few days.  Those who needed to find me in an emergency could, and everything else could survive just fine without me.

When we arrived back in Florida, I turned my phone back on to face the bombardment of messages, particularly as my husband was heading to Orlando to meet us (another surprise for the girls).  I didn’t bother with emails or FB, though.  Even when we settled at our Disney resort, I got online just to check my personal email, because some soccer-related things had come up that needed my attention as coach.

For an additional three days, I avoided social media completely, save for the occasional picture posted from my phone.  In the meantime, I made some incredible memories with my family, my mom, and my friend Marci.  This was the first cruise for my daughters and me, and this was my younger daughter’s first trip to Disney World, and it was more important to watch the magic come alive for her than it was to check in on my social media accounts.

This video perfectly encapsulates the value of putting down the phone and paying attention to the people around us.

I put this into practice yesterday as I spent time with my friend April talking about everything under the sun.  My phone vibrated in my pocket off and on for five hours, and I studiously ignored it.  When one of my friends asked where I was, honestly believing that “meeting for coffee” would only last an hour or so, I asked him, “When you go out and are looking around, how many people are buried in their phones?”  He replied, “Way more than I like to see.”  I was determined not to be one of those people, and it left me able to enjoy the face-to-face time.  After all, chick time without kids is rare, but I can check my phone any time.

How do you unplug?  Can you unplug to spend time with loved ones?

 

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Bringing Back Some Favorites

Do y’all hear that deep, straight-from-the-toes sigh?  It’s the sound of a woman/mom/entrepreneur who is able to shed some additions to her schedule and get back into the business of taking care of business.  Several weeks ago, my younger daughter said, “Mommy, it’s not for long.”  She was referring to my being stuck behind a dump truck on the way to their swimming lesson, but I thought about it in light of all the things I had on my plate at the time.  I was chauffeuring them to swimming lessons Mondays and Fridays, soccer practice (including coaching my younger daughter’s team) Tuesdays and Thursdays, church activities Wednesdays and Sundays, and Saturdays were soccer games with all four of us being involved in some way.  But I knew soccer would end in mid-May, swimming lessons would end the end of April, and Wednesday night church activities would be over for them before our trip.  In short, “it wouldn’t be for long.”

All that’s over now.  We’ve returned from our EPIC Spring Break trip, wrapped up the soccer season, we’re days away from the end of our school year, and I am plowing head-first back into work.  I kicked it off with three batches of amazing soap restocking.  That was Friday evening’s fun.  Mostly this weekend, though, I did minimal production and lots of resting.

Two fresh soaps - Fresh Cut Roses and Lemon Grove Gardeners Soap
Two fresh soaps – Fresh Cut Roses and Lemon Grove Gardeners Soap

In my mad soapmaking endeavors Friday evening, I started with a glorious batch of Soap of Milk & Honey (and Oatmeal!), which you can sort of see a bit of in the bottom of the picture.  I followed that with Fresh Cut Roses (the pink soap) which I’m making primarily to restock for ConTemporal, but also to add to my line as a Special Edition.  I brought the production home with Lemon Grove Gardener’s Soap (the pale yellow there with the specks of calendula petals), a perennial favorite with its scrubby properties and all natural, fresh lemony scent.

Up next is a rendezvous with The Perfect Man.  Stay tuned…

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The Value of Relaxation

English: A young girl taking a break in a swim...
English: A young girl taking a break in a swimming pool, grabbing on to a rainbow-coloured styrofoam flotation device. Français : Jeune fille s’offrant une pause dans une piscine, s’accrochant à une planche de polystirène expansé aux couleurs de l’arc en ciel. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I’m a busy woman.  I’m not bragging about that at all.  I don’t use my busyness to get out of things if I can help it.  I don’t take pride in my busyness.  If anything, I feel ashamed of it sometimes, because I think, “Maybe I can manage my time better.”  But, the fact remains that, between running my business, teaching my girls, chauffeuring them from Point A to Point B, managing the household and coaching soccer, I am very busy.  But not for long.  Those running around days are coming to a close.  The soccer season won’t last forever.  And our Summer Break starts at the end of May.  There will soon be time to breathe.

Given all this busyness, all these responsibilities, all the minutiae of things that need my attention, it is very hard for me to stop to chill.  I have two children who demand that I stop to play with them every so often.  Last week after their swimming lessons, they asked if we could do free swim some.  I said, “Sure.”  OK, in my mind, I was saying, “But I’ve got to type that blog post and take those pictures and get through our academic lessons…”  The “Yes” won out, and we enjoyed an hour-and-a-half or so in the pool together, swimming and playing…  and laughing.  By the time we got home, I was feeling very mellow and relaxed, which set me up for a very productive afternoon.

Last Wednesday, I blew off a small group study on raising better kids to enjoy coffee and smoothies with an acquaintance-turned-friend.  I was looking forward to it with a little trepidation.  Would April and I have enough to discuss to fill the hour-long break we had from motherhood?  Oh yes, plus some!  When the time was coming to a close, neither of us was ready to get back to the demands of motherhood, having enjoyed getting to know one another better and discovering all we have in common.

Last weekend, I took time to liberate myself of all responsibilities.  My best friend and I had planned for me to come for a visit after our soccer games were over.  My heart blossomed as I spent time with his daughter, and he said a few times, “She opened up to you more than she had the whole time she was here!”  We shopped; spent time with his mom, who’s one of my dear friends; went out to a great dinner; attended church (can I get an AMEN for rich spiritual nourishment!); then chilled with Netflix for a while.  We talked and laughed and cut up, and I left feeling completely recharged.  Not once did I check my business email or worry for a second about the batches of soap awaiting production.

Then came yesterday.  So much to do, and only one car between hubby and me (his died last week, so he’s been using mine for work).  Swimming lessons and hair appointments and necessary Easter shoe shopping for the girls and…  A rain day.  That meant he didn’t have to work, so I had the car to get things done.  Unfortunately, the timing never worked out with the girls’ swim teacher, but Hubby worked with the girls on their techniques, our youngest, especially.  I was going to sit and watch, using my phone to catch up on emails, blog posts, and so forth, but at the almost last minute, I grabbed my suit and towel and decided to swim myself.  How wonderful it was taking this opportunity to exercise and play in the pool!  We also managed to get everything else done.

I needed these breaks.  I needed the mental breaks with my girls, new friend, and bestie to play and laugh.  I needed soccer and yesterday’s swimming time to exercise.  I needed to fall asleep on the sofa last night to refresh and rejuvenate my mind and body.  I needed to stop for a while, because it was only in allowing myself to stop that I could once more go full speed ahead with fresh ideas, goals, motivation, and agendas.

What do you do to stop yourself in order to get a fresh start?

 

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